Transforming Trauma, Becoming Whole: 17 of 43 Days

Feeling exhausted and worn-out, I’ve continued to move forward with the help of three. My beloved Karl, and organizers Edith and Hillary have carried us out of the basement project (FTD Trauma 2007-2009) and into the upstairs project (estate management 2013-2014). This week we worked to clear the guest room and prepare the sun room as an estate management clearing-house.

Guest Room

Guest Room

Day 14 of 43: Guest Room Cleared (2 hours)
Problem: When we moved-in together to our home five years ago, we brought with us bed linens from our two lives previous. Since life never slowed-down long enough to sort and weed these things, they remained too-many for our current needs.
Action: We stripped the linens from the room and sorted out linens that no longer fit our life; these linens were donated.
New Reality: The guest room linen closet has what the room needs and no more.

Art Supplies Storage

Art Supplies Storage

Day 15 of 43: Art Supplies Container Cleared (2 hours)
Problem: The container shown here was originally purchased to better contain books and papers that were in our home in 2010. Since that time, we had several family care emergencies that required quick pick-ups and stuff got stuffed in these cubes willy-nilly.
Action: We emptied the containers and shelving and sorted the contents into the categories: books, work, personal.
New Reality: This empty storage unit is now available to store art supplies.

Yoga & Fitness Supplies

Yoga & Fitness Supplies

Books

Books


Day 16 of 43: Estate-Clearing-Room Prepared (3 hours)
Problem: The sun room has been used as overflow storage of estate items moved in November. Since our project work is complete-for-now in the basement, we are able to tackle the estate items awaiting attention. This room needed to be set-up in a way that would make it easy to work with major categories of stuff such as: books, kitchen, office, technology, home decor, yoga and art supplies…
Action: We grouped similar items together to create families.
New Reality: The room now has areas for targeted sorting and decision-making on peer items that can easily be compared, such as the books and yoga/fitness supplies pictured above.

3 Large Suitcases

3 Large Suitcases

Day 17 of 43: 2008 Suitcases Unpacked (3 hours) Problem: Packed suitcases from a sudden move in 2008 have been stored unopened in the basement since we moved them there in 2009. This luggage was taking up psychic and physical space in our basement storage. These suitcases represented a life trauma (FTD Caregiving 2007-2009), and were not ready to be un-packed until now.
Action: We opened the suitcases and found: two contained clothing and medical supplies from the time my mother passed away 12/24/08 and we had to quickly move her stuff out of the assisted-living room; one contained my own clothing packed in 2007 when I had to quickly move out-of-state to manage my mom’s care. We sorted the contents into keep, donate, and trash piles. We integrated some clothing into my current wardrobe. We packed the rest of the keep category into totes for future sorting, and moved these totes to basement storage.
New Reality: We dealt with these mystery-bags and we’re lighter for it. We unpacked the 2008 trauma and talked about the stories-between-the-folds, ironed-on institutional-living name tags, and clothing marked with other-family-names. I re-claimed classic cashmere sweaters purchased in 2007, which have been untouched by time, unlike myself.

Moving forward with a listening heart,
vision, inquiry, and action,
~ Mary

This post is part of the series: Transforming Trauma, Becoming Whole.
Please read “40+ Days of Desert Practice” for the series description and background.

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